In our world today people relate the word intimacy to sex, sex, sex. But that's not what intimacy is all about. Intimacy means to be "into" the person. If you go out and just have one night stands, have sex with multiple people you aren't experiencing true intimacy. True intimacy is love, it is serving the person you are with.
In most peoples minds especially if you are not married talking about sex is uncomfortable. I agree. I would rather talk about it with my spouse and my spouse only. However there is something that we need to know about intimacy. Its not just all about the sex. Like I mentioned before its serving one another. Its showing the undenying love you have for your spouse.
There are four stages in the sexual response cycle. And during this cycle the male and the female experience it differently. I believe this is why we were created as male and female. The first stage is excitement- holding hands, kissing, cuddling can all trigger this excitement. The second is plateau- where arousal starts to form and prepares you for the third stage of orgasm- the orgasm is the highest point of the sexual response cycle. after the orgasm comes the resolution-in my mind i call it the call down the finish. One thing that is different between males and females is that it is so hard for women to recognize the sense of arousal, and it is possible for the women to not even experience an orgasm. the male may be completely finished and at the resolution stage and the woman could still be at the plateau. Because of this difference between male and females this can create a lot of insecurity in the sexual intimacy life of a couple. Women need to feel secure before anything, that the male is there with them through it all.
Allow the time with your spouse during your sexual intimate life to be an opportunity of love and service.
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